Building Resiliency in Children

February 25, 2013

Microsoft Word - Document1

Resiliency is the ability to “bounce back” from life’s set-backs and changes. Rather than trying to “bubble-wrap” our children to protect them from life’s challenges, we need to help them develop self-confidence, skills and abilities to make them resilient.

Resilient children are involved in meaningful activities. They show an interest in school. They have goals and a positive outlook. They are assertive and aware of their feelings. They are confident in their abilities and can solve problems. These children look for positive role models and have a network of supportive people. They show empathy. They are independent, yet still dependent upon others.

Children want to belong and participate. If parents are not available, children will search for acceptance and recognition from others. This often results in peers with negative attitudes and behaviours.

How Parents can Build Resiliency:
Be a good role model – Set limits, and boundaries for the way others treat you.
Build a strong relationship – Start when your child is young and be consistently present in your child’s life.
Be mindful of stressful times – Listen patiently and share life stories of your own struggles.
Provide adequate supervision – Know where your child is and be able to contact him. Have adequate child care arrangements in place. Know your child’s friends.
Protect, but don’t overprotect – Allow your child to make mistakes and learn from them.
Involve your child – Allow your child to make some of his own decisions.

For more information, please visit: