“I’ve been told over and over that I’m spoiling my newborn baby…and sometimes I feel as if I am. He cries for me to pick him up and once I do, he stops crying. How can I break him of this habit early before it gets worse?”
Young babies simply can’t be spoiled. They cry to get your attention because that is the only way that they can tell you what they need. Listen to your parental instinct –pick up and comfort your baby when he cries. When you comfort your baby, he/she learns to feel secure, loved and valued. You are building a foundation of trust that can last for years to come.
When you respond quickly and sensitively to your baby’s cries, he will come to see the world as a good place and have the courage to explore it happily on his own. Once he learns that you take his cries seriously, he will be less likely to cry for no reason. In the long run, responding to your baby’s cries will make him less clingy, not more.
As baby grows older, you can begin to lessen the level of your response to his cries. Rather than picking him up right away, go to him and let him know you are there. Talk to him or rub his back. Offer a blanket or special toy to help him begin to soothe himself. But stay with him and let him know that you are there for him and love him unconditionally.